Thursday, December 3, 2009

Furious And Frustrated

I just had an enormous blow up with one of my best friends. It wasn't even an actual fight; we were just talking and then it suddenly ended really, really badly. I have a healthy 6-inch sub in front of me right now to try and stave of any cravings for comfort food, but I am definitely worried about how this day is going to pan out. Yeah. I'm just not feeling it...

Edit: This is just an update to say (five hours after my original posting) that I have handled the food well and even got out for a walk to try and relieve some of this stress. I am not going to go so far as to claim that I am actually feeling better, but I do think that the crisis has been averted. Thank you to everyone who left such supportive comments - you really are all a lifeline to me.

21 comments:

  1. Take the day slowly. Take it hour by hour if you have to. Eating badly is not going to fix the problem with your friend and you WILL feel worse if you give in to emotional eating.

    I know you know this already. Sometimes it helps to say it out loud and hear yourself say it.

    Hugs.

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  2. I just went through this myself in the last week. Go outside and scream, take a quick walk, do something that helps you get past the feeling. I spent the week eating bad and it wasn't worth it!

    HUGS too!

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  3. Nothing worse is there? I had a huge and I mean HUGE blowup with my best friend a few years ago - we didn't talk for 2 years and it tore me to pieces. We reconciled just before her daughter's wedding and our relationship is good - its different but its good.
    Ironically she was here on campus today and she called me - it was nice to pop in and give her a hug (in front of all the other educators LOL).

    Deep breaths and think is this worth it - can you both put it behind your and move forward or do you want to fix it. Wishing you peace and going for a good walk after your healthy sub is a good thing.

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  4. Uh oh! I agree with whoever said that eating comfort food won't actually help you. In the long run, it won't even make you feel better. Try to think of some other way to either fix the problem or make yourself feel better!

    I have certain topics (religion; vaccines; global warming!) that I CANNOT discuss with certain friends and even some relatives, or I know it will end badly. Our conversations go awkward quick if either of us bring these certain topics up.

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  5. I am sorry to hear that. I think the other ladies had good points. Do something nice for yourself and distract yourself from it.

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  6. be strong, i know you can - but I know these kind of things are hard too.
    if you must eat - fill your mouth with the BEST possible picks - oatmeal, veggies, fruit

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  7. When you want to eat something bad to comfort your hurt feelings, remember me and my 9.6 lb gain last week. I've been rolling my eyes at myself all week trying to get this crap back off...you already know in your head it's not worth it...but I'm living proof. :(

    Hope you get things worked out soon, and get to feeling better. Big hugs. :)

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  8. 266, so sorry.. AHG, the emotional eating!!! Try not to fall prey! This is what I did with bad bosses or bad work situations.. I told myself, so I really want to let this take me backwards form all I have accomplished. These are situations we are going to have to deal with life long so try to find another coping mechanism like walking or calling a family member or any other activity that will replace food. Replace the behaviors with bad emotions with another coping mechanism enough times & it will help you turn this around.. at least 98% of the time!

    HUGS!

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  9. I loathe days like those. Arguments out of nothing and then the desire to empty the fridge and the supermarket shelves.

    Hopefully the sub did the trick. You did a brilliant job of recognising your feelings and planning how you dealt with it.

    I hope things are less fraught now.:)

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  10. I have had this happen.
    It ended my friendship. It was about religion and there is no quicker way to sink a friend than to disagree on something so fundemental to who you are...hope it wasn't serious, just an anomoly.

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  11. I am so sorry! I know that can be so stressful! Big hug your way!

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  12. I hope you're feeling OK. Did you eat the sub? Do you feel better now? Hopefully you and your friend will get things worked out and if you can't you have to ask .. is she really a friend? Sending hugs!

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  13. I am sooo sorry. I had some strange relational problems during my weight loss - some probably weight related and some not. It is so hard to stay focused when things are swirling around in your head.

    Thinking of you.

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  14. i'm sorry you had a row with your friend. just be good to yourself :-)

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  15. Thinking of you. Overeating won't help the situation though...you'll just feel worse. Be strong and figure out the situation and the next step without the food lying to you that it can help!

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  16. Thanks for the support everyone. It was serious in that we almost never ever get to such an emotional point, but we have been friends for too long and are too closely ingrained in one another's lives for this to be likely to force a permanent wedge between us. I want to be respectful of her by not revealing too much, but I will say that there are some deeper issues in her life that are currently so far out of hand that patience has been an absolute neccessity when seeing her lately. I guess today I just ran out.

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  17. Big Hugs and well done on being strong. The emotional pull of food in a situation like this is very strong but you are stronger.

    I am so impressed with your thinking, your motivation and thinking is Awesome!

    hugs

    Sheilagh

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  18. late to the post BUT Im so proud of you for averting the binge and just FEELING your anger.

    big big step.

    xo xo,

    Miz.

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  19. I'm really sorry, I hate it when that situation happens, we all have had them...we eat to make us feel better, but the new US has learnt that we have to walk away.
    All things will sort themselves out in time.

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  20. I often find that getting out for a walk is the best thing I can do for myself when I feel on the verge of doing something I know I'll regret. I'm glad that you were able to get yourself outside and that you're feeling better overall.

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