Lately I have noticed that a couple of my friends have started making comments about the shape they are in. Specifically, I have heard one tell me that she really needs to get back to the gym and another has remarked on how she is feeling very large these days.
I am sure that I have heard similar declarations from friends before, but they were always statements that made me feel like they were being too critical of themselves, considering the far worse off state that I was in. I don’t know if the remarks are stated differently now that I have lost so much weight myself, or if it is just my own different processing of the comments, but I feel like perhaps there is an invitation embedded within them now. Are they looking for help or reassurance or both?
I’m not sure that there is much I can do in these situations. For me, prior to when I started this five months ago, the thought of having someone offer to assist me in starting on a weight loss journey probably would have sent me straight to the cookie jar – if not right away, at least after a few days of ‘being good’ had taken their toll. I am not positive that changing one’s lifestyle is something a person can do unless they are completely ready, and I am even less certain about the likelihood of success if they are prodded into it by a well-intentioned friend.
I would certainly assist in any way I could if I was asked, and I don’t think that I would have any issues with pointing out where loved ones were faltering if it were seriously damaging them. However, I believe that discovering a true desire to change habits has to come from within, not from someone who may or may not be correctly picking up on hints to help out.
Besides, I don’t think my friends have much to complain about in the first place. I am still at a point where I look forward to having the type of body they are so fed up with!